But I was on Facebook earlier (on an LDS moms page) and they were having a conversation which included masturbation, I honestly had no clue about masturbation being against the law of chastity and now I feel awful and disgusting. I have prayed, fasted, read scriptures and continue doing so. I want to clear something up. What you tell the bishop he will definitely keep confidential, though he may encourage you to talk to your parents about the situation if he thinks they should know and could help. Im sure your bishop and stake president will be able to call your mission president or the missionary department at church headquarters to figure out what is going on. It makes sense to me, which is one of the reasons why I believe it. When repenting to the Bishop, if I am 18 years old do I need to tell my parents the sin if it is more serious such as the Law of Chastity or can I keep it between the Bishop and I? He has No pity nor empathy for you. We cannot linger in temptation and expect to overcome sin. He confess it to the bishop and the bishop said to him to ask for the lords forgiveness, pray and fast and also ask for my forgiveness to his mistakes to me. If possible could you give a ballpark estimate like 3months-1year , or 1year or more. I am very much aware that it is wrong but cant help to speak up for myself because I really dont want to lose her and I love her just as my bff. Ive had some recent problems with serious sins and Ive talked to my bishop and stake president and they said I have to wait three months. Because of His atoning sacrifice, He shoulders the pain that we experience, which gives us the ability to overcome these hurts and to heal and forgive our spouse. However, we can read some passages that show us that Adam and Eve could have repented of their sins. Hey Jimmy And after millennia of practicing his cunning arts, the adversary is experienced and incorrigible. Good luck and God bless. I am glad you have the desire to repent. I wish I could offer more help than that. Good luck and God bless. Talk to your bishop as soon as possible. Im proud of you for having the courage to go talk to him. Godly sorrow is different than worldly sorrow. So even when you have that happen, dont get down on yourself, Remember that you are of infinite worth. If you are unsure of your standing before God, then I recommend you go talk to your bishop. For the longest time Ive been lost. Sometimes I think we get so caught up with the idea that if it . Thank you Ive been looking for someone to talk to for a long time. I broke the law of chastity with my boyfriend. God Loves you whether you deserve it or not, and he will always help you whether you see it or not, but in order for him to remain God, he has to follow the laws and that means he can not bless you unless you follow them to. I always ask myself Am I forgiven? And I bless you that as you make these efforts, you will experience miracles in your life. Repentance in the Church requires confession to a priesthood authority, abandonment of the sin, usually a disciplinary council, the withdrawal of blessings, and, in time, the restoration of blessings as long as the offender stays on the straight and narrow path. These issues include breaking the law of chastity, so My question is: how long would I have to wait after talking to my bishop before I am worthy to enter the temple again.? Link to comment. When we get up in the morning, we should examine ourselves to see whether the Spirit of God is with us. That is between you and the Lord, primarily, and perhaps also with the Lords judge on earth, your bishop (D&C 107: 72) and stake president. It seems, based on the situation as you explained it, that you probably did nothing wrong that warrants confession to your bishop. I love that he used the word "enthusiasm" when talking about repentance. Godly sorrow does not come because of the natural consequences of sin or because of a fear of punishment; rather, it comes from the knowledge that we have, through our actions, displeased our Heavenly Father and our Savior. I never felt the need to tell my bishop about it because it hadnt been my fault. 1 year? mitchell gorshin; kentfield hospital staff; what to feed kookaburras in captivity kristie floren burgess best lds talks on repentance. But if not then Id go on mission. When I was 8, I didnt tell my bishop and was baptized unworthily. I broke the law of chastity about 2 years ago. A few years ago, I had the opportunity of serving as the bishop of a married student ward. Be prayerful and study the scriptures and I know the Lord will manifest unto you, by the power of His Spirit, what you should do. Will I have to stop taking the sacrament for this? In either case,they are seeking encouragement to begin the repentance process. I am currently away from home and my ward. Good luck with your mission prep. I would say that if you are ever unsure, it is better to be safe than sorry, so I would suggest talking to your bishop. . I am hoping to serve soon but I am willing to face the consequence of my actions because I know I wouldnt be able to teach something that I am not found spotless on. Continue to strive to be close to you Father in Heaven. I did tell one of my bishops but I still had this addiction. I finally made it to the temple for my endowments, but have since messed up and once I did, it made me feel so horrible that its created a cycle all over again. So Im preparing to serve a mission at the moment. In a way we do not fully understand, Jesus paid for our sins. I am sorry for what I did and I dont think I can wait a year and still want to go on a mission. If we stumble or fall, if we miss that mark at times, let us turn and re-aim for Him. James, To be honest with you, the chances of you going on a mission may be small. I know this is how it needs to be, but its hard when so many people are asking me about my papers. When I started learning how and it was in young womens I started freaking out and repenting. How do we know a person has repented? Serious transgressions, such as violations of the law of chastity, may jeopardize a persons membership in the Church. I hope that I am not too far so as not to be able to serve a mission in the future, as I have surpassed the age limit to serve. President JamesE. Faust (19202007) said: Our Redeemer took upon Himself all the sins, pains, infirmities, and sicknesses of all who have ever lived and will ever live. In other cases, the level of resentment reaches a point where the spouse is unable to forget about it and move on with the relationship. The Church recommends that at least a year pass from the original church council. Make it easy for her to want to be yours. Mortification and shame alone bring no change of heart toward right feeling and right living. We all have need to repent. Whether or not he can still hold a calling will depend on the seriousness of how he broke the law of chastity. Have faith, be prayerful, immerse yourself in the scriptures and the word of God, and let the Holy Spirit be your guide. But he told me that he needed to tell bishop my name so that he can fully repent. Please be open and honest with him and Im sure he will help you get ready and leave on a mission as soon as possible. However, since this was several years ago (I am now 18) and something that I feel forgiven for and have left completely in the past, do I still need to talk to my bishop? See Deuteronomy 26:8; 2Nephi 1:15; Mormon 6:17; Doctrine and Covenants 6:20. I feel like Im losing my mind. From what you have said, I would guess that a mission is still a possibility. disfellowshipment? For serious sins, such as sexual intercourse outside of marriage or other serious violations of the law of chastity, I strongly encourage you to confess both to the Lord and to his representative in the Church, your bishop. A liar should make the truth known. In addition to recognizing our sins, we must feel sincere sorrow for what we have done. During this time we all sin (see Romans 3:23). Do you still even enter the mtc and just work through it with? But that doesnt change the fact that it happened. My dear brethren, it is inspiring to look out over this vast congregation of the Lords battalion of priesthood bearers. Do I ask my bishop now, or do I wait to see if my bishop feels it is necessary to approach me about it? I stopped watching those kind of videos and started to control myself. But were a bit afraid that he will be ex communicated if we confess. The Lord will not forgive us unless our hearts are fully cleansed of all hate, bitterness, and bad feelings against other people (see 3Nephi 13:1415). But be assured that there is healing, whether you are the victim or if you sinned, though our Savior Jesus Christ. Right now, I am forced to attend a college that I dont like due to issues at my other college aka BYU-Idaho. But, I am very much afraid of confessing to the bishop since my dad is his councelor. So be sure to talk to your bishop as soon as possible. I have an engineering degree, a very mathematical, logical science, and I have worked as an analyst, a very data-driven, logical profession, for most of my career. Michelle, I hope the conversation with your bishop went well. And then, change! Be humble, be prayerful, strengthen your relationship with God, and I know he will heal and bless you. President BoydK. Packer of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught: All of us carry excess baggage around from time to time, but the wisest ones among us dont carry it for very long. Certainly it comforts those who sorrow because they have been hurt by their spouse. The world is full of temptations. Well, for one, it sounds like you may have more of a testimony than you even realize. And when you go into battle each day, you should prepare yourself. This is a lifelong process. Am afraid to talk it out to my bishop and i dont know. Only your bishop will be able to tell you the answer to this and many of your questions. But if we are striving to repent, we can then use the sacrament to aid us in the repentance process. President Ezra Taft Benson (18991994) taught: Think of the repentance that could take place with lives changed, marriages preserved, and homes strengthened, if pride did not keep us from confessing our sins and forsaking them., The antidote for pride is humilitymeekness, submissiveness. In order to be effective, an apology must be sincere and heartfelt. In the next follow up interview with the bishop, the person should tell what happened and it shouldnt delay the repentance process too much. I have been clean for 4 months now and feel much better. You may also ask your priesthood leaders what ideas they have, and that could include some kind of addiction support group. Be her partner. You will likely have to wait a year from the time you broke the law of chastity. Never forget Christs atonement for you, and focus on it is wonderful, good great and you should. Just wondering how long it is before I can take it again. A person simply cannot properly serve the Lord when they have a serious, unresolved sin in their life. I am willing to put those on the shelf for now because of my testimony. When we experience godly sorrow, we have a sincere desire for change and a willingness to submit to every requirement for forgiveness. Annalisa, Im so sorry to hear about the situation. For example viewing pornography and having sexual intercourse with someone youre not married to are both violations of the law of chastity, but the sexual intercourse is a much more serious violation. The mission department should have nothing to do with it. It is something I need to discuss with a bishop, I know that. And Ive always lived worthily my entire life. Until shes doing things to me that is close to breaking the loc, it involves a lot of touching and kissing. Using will power to effect change in life is often not effective. Isnt repentance an individual act that is different for different people? How do I get over this, if I go to the bishop will I get excommunicated or made to do some horrible thing? Your bishop will also be able to give you good advice on this subject. Eli, I encourage you to be completely open and honest with your bishop as you meet with him in preparation for your mission. I broke LOC when I was 20, I confessed it to the bishop and repented on it, now Im 23. We try to become better listeners. Take an inventory of how you spend your time and where you devote your energy. Both invite the healing power of the Atonement to wash over us so that we can maintain peace and harmony in our marriage. If these steps have been accomplished, where does a 1 year waiting period fit in? Thanks! Nothing on TV, a mobile device, or a computer is more important than her well-being. As you follow the teachings of Jesus and the guidance of your priesthood leaders, you will be washed clean of your sins through the atoning power of our Savior Jesus Christ. I am a YSA and I broke LOC when I was 20, I confessed it to the bishop and repented on it now Im 23. Restitution. Satan knows who you are and who you were premortally, and he understands the work that must be done before the Savior returns. God's longsuffering leads us to repentance ( 2 Peter 3:9 ), as does His kindness ( Romans 2:4 ). The last thing you would want is nagging feelings about whether or not your repentance is complete. Because the Savior performed the great atoning sacrifice and suffered for our sins in the garden of Gethsemane and on the cross, we can repent, change our ways, be forgiven, and be made clean and worthy before God. Recently I have found myself drawn to the Lords instruction given through the Prophet Joseph Smith: Say nothing but repentance unto this generation.1 This declaration is often repeated throughout scripture.2 It prompts an obvious question: Does everyone need to repent? The answer is yes. I have repeated personally and gotten rid of anything that will tempt me. (But watching these videos dont happen each and everyday, as far as I remember we only watched it for like less than 4 days not consecutive) From that day on, I started to think unwanted thoughts in my mind and have this feeling of arousal in my body, a way so l can put myself to sleep but I never tried to masturbate. It is time to put on the full armor of God so we can engage in the most important work on earth. If you did not do that, perhaps that is why your former transgressions continue to bother you. By forgiving those who trespass against us (Joseph Smith Translation, Matthew 6:13), the Atonement brings a measure of peace and comfort to those who have been innocently victimized by the sins of others. I feel as if I have to leave soon or else I will have missed the time. Do I still have to tell my bishop? But if the missionary hasnt left yet, Im not sure what they will say. I got baptized when I was 15 and first had relations when I was already a member. It seems that raising the bar means one has to repent differently than normal. Having said that, personally, I dont think confessing a pornography problem from several years ago would be required. And also the words of Isaiah, Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool (Isaiah 1:18). Your commitment to follow the Savior by making covenants with Him and then keeping those covenants will open the door to every spiritual blessing and privilege available to men, women, and children everywhere. (https://www.lds.org/liahona/2018/04/as-we-go-forward-together?lang=eng) Good luck and God bless. Repentance is the key to avoiding misery inflicted by traps of the adversary. How long will the repentance process take? Having a defined, universal waiting period is akin to offering up 30 hail Marys and 50 our Fathers. Remember what the Lord told Hyrum Smith, Seek not to declare my word, but first seek to obtain my word, and then shall your tongue be loosed; then, if you desire, you shall have my Spirit and my word, yea, the power of God unto the convincing of men. (D&C 11:21). But I let these things happened. I am not absolving him of responsibility. Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin (D&C 64:9). or whatttt? But, Im still bothered by the mistake before even though Ive repented about it. Ultimately, repentance is a relationship with God. I have already quit smoking after 13 years, drinking coffee, watching any entertainment media and video games, and a few other things. Personal purity can make us powerful tools in the hands of God. We need to forgive and move on. We are so close that there came a time that she states her love for me. That means you have more power than he does and never ever feel sorrow or pity for him. Ultimately, its impossible for me to judge this situation. To teach the people to repent and to obtain the power of repentance in their personal lives so that they could develop self-control and get their feet on the path that leads to salvation. So anyways, i have repented of this sin but every now and then it keeps coming back to me. Thus, step one to truly repenting is to experience godly sorrow, grief over our sin. After stumbling upon pornographic material online, I unfortunately touched myself while viewing the material. We call that forgiveness. I literally have been marking each day on my calendar that I have gone in sobriety and I am desperately trying to overcome this one addiction. There needs to be evidence that you are truly sorry that you have hurt or offended your spouse and that you take responsibility for your mistake or offense. Be prayerful. But I am worried as far as serving a mission, can I still serve a mission if I have used an illegal drug? He loves you and wants you to return to live with him. They will keep confessions confidential and help throughout the process of repentance. We are not fully repentant if we do not pay tithes or keep the Sabbath day holy or obey the Word of Wisdom. It sounds like you have taken many of the right steps to repent and be clean. It can be difficult to admit to oth But when mercy could have been extended by a loving mission president, policy kicked in, and that mercy was withdrawn. The scriptures tell us, All those who humble themselves before God, and desire to be baptized, and come forth with broken hearts and contrite spirits, and have truly repented of all their sins shall be received by baptism into his church (D&C 20:37). Sometimes we sin because of ignorance, sometimes because of our weaknesses, and sometimes because of willful disobedience. You will need Heavens help, and I know that help is available to the humble followers of our Savior Jesus Christ. You just have one that is a bit more of a struggle, but God has given you everything to succeed!! That is a good and righteous desire. Before we can repent, 2 Corinthians 7 teaches we must have godly sorrow. The Lord needs men eager to repentmen with a zeal to serve and be part of the Lords battalion of worthy priesthood bearers. Yes, we will falter. Please be completely open and honest with him and tell him of all these transgressions so you can begin the process of repenting and putting these things behind you. Your bishop will need to know all that happened, but I wouldnt classify his questions as an effort to know every single detail. Thank you for any advice you can give me. I want answers to learn how to be morally clean from this gross sin. As such, the repentance process takes into account many factors and may be solely between oneself and one's bishop, or may need to be referred by one's bishop to the stake presidency, and in serious cases even to church headquarters. The LDS Church Handbook for bishops and stake presidents says this period can be as long as three years for multiple serious transgressions and should not be less than one year from the most recent serious incident for a person who has been guilty of serious violation of the law of chastity. I started attending church and paying my tithe a couple weeks ago(minus sacrament meeting). We must kneel before Him in humble prayer, acknowledging our sins. Whether you are diligently moving along the covenant path, have slipped or stepped from the covenant path, or cant even see the path from where you are now, I plead with you to repent. Camie, If you have moved, you will need to talk to your new bishop. 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